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lysfjord
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Baby Arrived on 8/26/2006 |
 Posted - 08/25/2006 : 22:20:37
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My wife and myself are trying to have a baby, but in the last 8 months we have gone through two miscarriages. Both happened after about 6-7 weeks, with no visible heartbeat. We went to do chromosone and other tests, but the result showed we were normal, so we're trying again.
After failing twice, my wife is getting super careful with whatever she does. Which unfortunately includes following what I believe are superstitious beliefs.
The latest is... don't raise your hands above shoulder heigth. I feel it's ridiculous as I've seen exercise programs for pregnant women that includes stretching arms above your head. And how can you control this when sleeping? On an everyday basis it means she cannot reach cups and plates in the kitchen, and she now wants to refurnish the kitchen to solve this problem!
If I confront her with this she starts crying and say that I am not sensitive enough about her problems, and don't take the pregnancy seriously. She is not yet pregnant, but wants to follow this rule. I really don't want to refurnish the kitchen because of something I believe is absolutely BS, but I also cannot find a way to gently tell her this. |
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InnocentOdion
United Kingdom
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Baby Arrived on 11/11/2006 |
Posted - 09/02/2006 : 05:27:17
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I can understand your frustration because my OH is the same in some respects - with all of the superstitions people are fed these days it's no surprise that people end up believing these myths.
My mother is one of the main culprits for feeding these beliefs- for example, the one day, my OH was getting some washing in from the garden. My mother told me off for it- when I asked 'what's so bad about that'? she said 'you're not supposed to stretch when you're pregnant'. I've also heard the 'don't get the pushchair before birth', the 'don't have sex whilst pregnant, the 'eating for two', heartburn meaning the baby is going to have a lot of hair, etc. I've heard most of these. It's so annoying because I can't ever get them to realise how daft these beliefs are.
Why don't you try talking to her about it, or even better- buy one of those pregnancy excercise video's you mentioned so she can watch it? If she doesn't believe you, try talking to the midwife or someone who you know who doesn't hold this view, who might be able to tell her that it's true. It might help.
Finally, if you are Christian, then there is, somewhere in the Bible, a passage which is supposed to be intepreted as to not have superstitious beliefs.
Hope this helps,
Carl :-)
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The 'No hands above head' myth - Help!
