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Josh S
USA
11 Posts
Baby Arrived on 2/7/2007 |
 Posted - 07/20/2006 : 13:41:14
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Hi! Do many people here cosleep with their baby? My LW and I would like to cosleep with the baby (who isn't due until February, by the way), but we're concerned because of our bed. We just got this new super comfy pillow-top mattress last year, and I've read that a baby's mattress should be relatively firm to help ensure against SIDS.
So, I guess my question is this: Has anyone else dealt with this problem? Do y'all think there might be some way we could cover the mattress with something to firm it up while the baby cosleeps? I really want to be able to cosleep, but I would never do it if it meant an increased risk to our baby. |
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newdad25
USA
42 Posts
Baby Arrived on 9/25/2006 |
Posted - 10/02/2006 : 11:22:08
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My LW and I recently purchased a very comfortable pillow-top also... we said that we weren't going to do the co-sleeping thing out of fear of rolling over on the baby, etc. However, every night so far, the baby starts off in its swing or the cosleeper and ends up in our bed, between us. I was surprised at how still we both were that night... I don't think I even moved much, didn't even have to brush my hair when I got up... lol.
The SIDS issue is a big concern for us, but as long as the baby is on its back and nestled between the two of you are in a sleep wedge, etc... I don't think it would be a problem sleeping on the pillow-top mattress.
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jrodpad
USA
74 Posts
Baby Arrived on 7/18/2008 |
Posted - 10/25/2006 : 10:22:19
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Josh,
Co-sleeping has been an unresolved issue for my wife and I since the birth of our daughter. My wife takes on the brunt of the nighttime care of the baby (exclusively breastfeeding), and thinks it would be far easier to care for the baby if the baby was sleeping in our bed, especially on the nights when the baby is up every hour. I also think that she wants to have the baby in our bed for comfort reasons as well. While I recognize both of these benefits as entirely legitimate, I still cannot get past my own fears of (a) smothering the baby by rolling on top of her, (b) the baby smothering herself by smashing her face into some pillows, the blankets, the mattress top, etc., and not being able to free herself to breathe, (c) the baby rolling onto the floor and braining herself, and (d) inflicting harm to the baby by hitting her when tossing and turning at night. To put a grim face on these fears, my sister has friends from college who had their 4 month old baby tragically die because the mother smothered the baby while they were both asleep (albeit on a sofa and not on a bed). I understand how rare this is, and that people all over the world co-sleep with their babies without incident, but I can’t get past the possibility, however remote, that we might repeat my sister’s friend’s mistake by taking the little one in bed with us. My wife and I have compromised by keeping a pack-n-play right next to the bed, where the baby sleeps between bumpers to prevent her from rolling around in the pack and play. This way, we don’t have to worry about the smothering issues and the baby is still within arm’s reach. I’ve also promised to allow the baby to sleep with us once she is big enough that my concerns no longer come into play. Great post – I would love to see how other people deal with co-sleeping too.
Thanks.
-Jrod
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tber
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Baby Arrived on 10/22/2006 |
Posted - 10/31/2006 : 16:55:59
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We decided not to co-sleep, because of all the fears, we just put the bassinet next to the bed, we also put the baby between us in bed before we put him in the bassinet for the night.
But the co-slepping does sound nice.
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nellie
24 Posts
Baby Arrived on 1/8/1982 |
Posted - 11/01/2006 : 15:18:15
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Co-sleeping has its advantages and disadvantages. I suggest you try what works for you.
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Steve Tanner
USA
2 Posts
Baby Arrived on 2/13/2007 |
Posted - 02/18/2007 : 19:49:14
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Have you looked into the Arms Reach co-sleeper? It attaches to your bed, allowing mom to lean over and feed while protecting the baby from said fears while she sleeps (we have a daughter, 5 days old). So far, she's been sleeping between us in our bed; but the Arms Reach should alleviate your concerns.
They didn't pay me to say that or anything, by the way.
-s
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[i]Originally posted by jrodpad[/i]
[br]Josh,
Co-sleeping has been an unresolved issue for my wife and I since the birth of our daughter. My wife takes on the brunt of the nighttime care of the baby (exclusively breastfeeding), and thinks it would be far easier to care for the baby if the baby was sleeping in our bed, especially on the nights when the baby is up every hour. I also think that she wants to have the baby in our bed for comfort reasons as well. While I recognize both of these benefits as entirely legitimate, I still cannot get past my own fears of (a) smothering the baby by rolling on top of her, (b) the baby smothering herself by smashing her face into some pillows, the blankets, the mattress top, etc., and not being able to free herself to breathe, (c) the baby rolling onto the floor and braining herself, and (d) inflicting harm to the baby by hitting her when tossing and turning at night. To put a grim face on these fears, my sister has friends from college who had their 4 month old baby tragically die because the mother smothered the baby while they were both asleep (albeit on a sofa and not on a bed). I understand how rare this is, and that people all over the world co-sleep with their babies without incident, but I can’t get past the possibility, however remote, that we might repeat my sister’s friend’s mistake by taking the little one in bed with us. My wife and I have compromised by keeping a pack-n-play right next to the bed, where the baby sleeps between bumpers to prevent her from rolling around in the pack and play. This way, we don’t have to worry about the smothering issues and the baby is still within arm’s reach. I’ve also promised to allow the baby to sleep with us once she is big enough that my concerns no longer come into play. Great post – I would love to see how other people deal with co-sleeping too.
Thanks.
-Jrod
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jrodpad
USA
74 Posts
Baby Arrived on 7/18/2008 |
Posted - 10/24/2007 : 11:27:08
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Just a quick follow-up: the co-sleeping issue still remains personally unresolved as a family matter 17 months later, nonetheless, our daughter has been sleeping in her room for a long time now. Even when we travel, the baby sleeps in a pack-and-play, albeit in our room.
I decided to write this quick post because there was an excellent article on the issue in the Times –
http://www.nytimes.com/2007/10/23/health/23well.html?pagewanted=2&ei=5087&em&en=5758670f0ceca03a&ex=1193371200
I want to agree with the author, however, I feel that the argument is entirely too one sided. I wish that more care was given to explaining the anti-co-sleeping argument and the SIDS risk. Notwithstanding the article’s shortcomings (in my opinion), it’s nice to see that the issue is getting mainstream attention.
-Jrod
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ricoy5
USA
15 Posts
Baby Arrived on 11/1/2007 |
Posted - 11/12/2007 : 23:54:50
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We are going on week 2 of life, and so far, Lily has not enjoyed sleeping in her by-the-bed-cradle.
However, she does like to sleep stomach-to-stomach, on one of our chests... I'm still a little afraid of SIDS, but skin to skin is her favorate sleeping position during the waking hours, and so far has never proved worrysome at night...
not to mention, we've been able to get 3 hours of sleep in a row, instead of one... very nice.
thoughts???
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Kelli
USA
2 Posts
Baby Arrived on 2/1/1992 |
Posted - 12/30/2007 : 18:39:06
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quote:
[i]Originally posted by ricoy5[/i]
[br]We are going on week 2 of life, and so far, Lily has not enjoyed sleeping in her by-the-bed-cradle.
However, she does like to sleep stomach-to-stomach, on one of our chests... I'm still a little afraid of SIDS, but skin to skin is her favorate sleeping position during the waking hours, and so far has never proved worrysome at night...
not to mention, we've been able to get 3 hours of sleep in a row, instead of one... very nice.
thoughts???
I love Kenneth
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Kelli
USA
2 Posts
Baby Arrived on 2/1/1992 |
Posted - 12/30/2007 : 18:49:36
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[i]Originally posted by Josh S[/i]
[br]Hi! Do many people here cosleep with their baby? My LW and I would like to cosleep with the baby (who isn't due until February, by the way), but we're concerned because of our bed. We just got this new super comfy pillow-top mattress last year, and I've read that a baby's mattress should be relatively firm to help ensure against SIDS.
So, I guess my question is this: Has anyone else dealt with this problem? Do y'all think there might be some way we could cover the mattress with something to firm it up while the baby cosleeps? I really want to be able to cosleep, but I would never do it if it meant an increased risk to our baby.
Please excuse me for butting in to your forum. I first started reading this because my daughters husband is having some difficulties with newborn son and relationship issues.
Enough of why. I now feel compelled to reach any an all who read this. 16 years ago I lost my son to SIDS, you NEVER get over it. I have 5 kids and miss him as though he would have been an only child. (He was my only son) the sleep you may gain today by taking risks could never replace the sleepless yaers after burriing your own child. Remember (BACK TO SLEEP) swaddle your baby to get him/her to sleep less reslessly.
While I was in group therapy 16 years ago the director of the group was a pediatic doctor who had lost a son 2 yaers earlier while sleeping on his bear chest. Stomache to stomache. DON'T RISK IT. EVER. All babies are angels sent to us from GOD.
My daughter has named my new grandson Kenneth after my son. He is a joy and beautiful.
My only hope is that this post will save at least one life. the hard thing is we will never know, because potential sids babies don't wear a badge
I love Kenneth
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