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To make matters that much more complicated, the Friday before Thanksgiving my girlfiend comes to me feeling awful and tells me that she has seen another guy 4 times over the last month. We discussed this and moved on. Looking at the dates and things that happened, I am 99% positive I am the father. That isnt the real issue here. The issue begins with her being brought up a strong Lutheran, being in Lutheran schools her entire life from preschool all the way through college. She is also currently a Lutheran preschool teacher. I was brought up Lutheran but not nearly with as much as an emphasis as it had in her life. We also attend as a couple to a non-denominational church around 3 times a week.

Her parents are not at all happy with the situation and have lectured her over not thinking before doing things and "How could she do this, she doesnt even know me" I understand these all being asked rightfully so but to lecture her for hours about it just doesnt make sense esp from such a Christian family. Everyone makes mistakes. My parents are elated with the idea of gaining their first grandchild. Her parents have gone as far as telling her privately to keep my name off the birth certificate cause I could come after her for custody of the child. I cant believe topics like this have arose as I have told them I will be by their daughters side and am not leaving. This and all within the first 4 days of finding out their daughter was pregnant.

To pile it on with her being a Lutheran School teacher she is undoubtedly lose her job teaching in a Christian school. While I do not believe anyone should get married just because they are pregnant, I do love and care about her a great deal. She has also said before the pregnancy that she could see spending the rest of her life with me. So to help with the job and because I do love her I suggested we get married. (Not exactly the way I wanted to "propose" but every situation is different). She said things are just moving so fast. Personally I just want to make sure that we raise this child together in a happy household. Her parents have also gone the step to say they dont want to see her marry me.

I am really confused on what I should do here. I want to be the supportive partner and get things ready for the future but seeing all the mean spirit coming from her parents I dont know what to do and dont want to pressure her into anything. Plus, these are just the things she has voluntarily told me her parents have said. What else could be lurking? Any thoughts or comments would surely be appreciated.

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