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Armin Brott
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Armin Brott bestselling books , including the recent release, Fathering Your School Age Child, have helped millions of men around the world become the fathers they want to be - and their children need them to be. Armin has been a guest on hundreds of radio and television shows, writes a nationally syndicated column, "Ask Mr. Dad," and hosts a weekly radio show. He and his family live in Oakland, California.

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This article is a copyright Armin Brott, 2008
Q: What should we do to childproof our house?

A: Once your baby realizes that he's able to move around by himself, his mission in life will be to locate--and race you to--the most dangerous, life-threatening things in your home. So if you haven't already begun the never-ending process of child-proofing your house, better start now.

The first thing to do is get down on your hands and knees and check things out from your baby's perspective. Taking care of those pesky wires and covering up your outlets is only the beginning, so start with the basics:

Anywhere and Everywhere:
  • Move anything valuable out of the baby's reach.
  • Bolt to the wall bookshelves and other free-standing cabinets (this goes double if you live in earthquake country); pulling things down on top of themselves is a favorite baby suicide attempt.
  • Don't hang heavy things on the stroller--it can tip over.
  • Get special guards for your radiators and move your space heaters and electric fans off the floor.
  • Install a safety gate at the bottom and top of every stairway.
  • Adjust your water heater temperature to 120 degrees. This will reduce the likelihood that your baby will scald himself.
  • Get a fire extinguisher and put smoke alarms in every bedroom.
Especially in the Kitchen:
  • Install safety locks on all but one of your low cabinets and drawers. Most of these locks allow the door to be opened slightly--just enough to accommodate a baby's fingers--so make sure the kind you get also keep the door from closing completely as well.
  • Stock the one unlocked cabinet with unbreakable pots and pans and encourage your baby to jump right in.
  • Keep baby's high chairs away from the walls. His strong little legs can push off and knock the chair over.
  • Watch out for irons and ironing boards. The cords are a hazard and the boards themselves are easy to knock over.
  • Get an oven lock and covers for your oven and stove knobs.
  • Use the back burners on the stove whenever possible and keep the handles turned toward the back of the stove.
  • Never hold your baby while you're cooking. Teaching him what steam is or how water boils may seem like a good idea, but bubbling spaghetti sauce or hot oil hurts when it splashes.
  • Put mouse- and insect traps in places where your baby can't get to them.
  • Use plastic dishes and serving bowls whenever you can--glass breaks and, at least in my house, the shards seem to show up for weeks, no matter how well I sweep.
  • Post the phone numbers of the nearest poison control agency and your pediatrician near your phone.
Especially in the Living Room:
  • Put decals--at baby height--on any sliding glass doors.
  • Get your plants off the floor: over 700 species can cause illness or death if eaten, including such common ones as lily of the valley, iris, and poinsettia.
  • Pad the corners of low tables, chairs, fireplace hearths.
  • Make sure your fireplace screen and tools can't be pulled over.
  • Keep furniture away from windows. Babies will climb up whatever they can and may fall through the glass.
Especially in the Bedroom/Nursery:
  • No homemade or antique cribs. They probably don't conform to today's safety standards.
  • Remove from the crib all mobiles and hanging toys. By 5 months, most kids can push themselves up on their hands and knees and can get tangled up (and even choke on) strings.
  • Keep the crib at least two feet away from blinds, drapes, hanging cords, or wall decorations with ribbons
  • Check toys for missing parts.
  • Toy chest lids should stay up when opened (so they doesn't slam down on tiny fingers).
  • Don't leave dresser drawers open. From the baby's perspective, they look an awful lot like stairs.
  • Keep crib items to a minimum: a sheet, a blanket, bumpers, and a few soft toys. Babies don't need pillows at this age and large toys or stuffed animals can be climbed on and used to escape the crib.
  • Don't leave your baby unattended on the changing table even for a second.
Especially in the Bathroom:
  • If possible, use a gate to keep access restricted to the adults in the house.
  • Install a toilet guard.
  • Keep bath and shower doors closed
  • Never leave water standing in the bath, a sink, or even a bucket. Drowning is the third most common cause of accidental deaths of young children, and babies can drown in practically no water at all.
  • Keep medication and cosmetics high up.
  • Make sure there's nothing your baby can climb up on to raid the medicine cabinet.
  • Keep shavers and hair dryers unplugged and out of reach.
  • No electrical appliances near bathtub.
  • Use a bath mat or stick-on safety strips to reduce the risk of slipping in the bathtub.


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» About seventy percent of new mothers experience periods of mild sadness, weepiness, mood swings, sleep deprivation, loss of appetite, inability to make decisions, anger, or anxiety after the baby is born.

» Q: My son was born four months ago, and things are starting to settle down. But every time I sit down to do some extra work on the computer, I feel guilty about leaving my wife to take care of him since she's with him all day long. I try to help, but I also need to get ahead with work. What should I do?

» Dear Mr. Dad: A close friend of mine wants to have a baby but she has no interest in being in a relationship with a man. I've been telling her that her baby will be a lot better off with a father around but she says dads don't bond with kids and that having a man around the house won't have any effect on the baby. Who's right?

» Dear Mr. Dad: I'm a new dad and I can't help but feel like my 2-week old girl hates me. it seems that no matter what I do with her-or even if I come near her-she screams and cries and flails her arms like she's trying to push me away or like she's frightened of me.

» Dear Mr. Dad. My girlfriend and I are about to become parents. She wants to get married before the baby is born, but I don't really see the point. Can't unmarried parents be just as committed as married ones?

» Dear Mr. Dad: Six months ago, my wife and I divorced because she was having an affair. After our divorce, she remarried and my 3-year old son has become attached to her new husband, who showers him with expensive presents. I know my son loves me, but it isn't easy for me not to feel hurt by their relationship. I don't want to harm my son's relationship with his stepfather, so how can I deal with these feelings?

» Dear Mr. Dad: I'm the mother of five kids under six and I'm on the verge of divorce. The problem is that I am taking care of the kids single-handedly and my husband hardly lifts a finger. When he does, I complement him, and I never criticize the way he does things. He's a doctor and works long hours, but am I expecting too much for him to make a meal once in a while, do some laundry, or wash a few dishes? I know men see things differently than women but he seems to be a little extreme. How much help can I realistically expect?

» My fiancée and I recently had a baby. I'm thrilled with everything, but I can't help but feel like I'm taking a backseat to her parents. It's almost as if their opinions matter more than mine. Is there anything I can do or say?

» Q: I've got a pretty flexible schedule and I'd really like to share the childcare equally with my wife. She seems so good at it, though, that I'm not sure I can ever catch up. Is there anything I can do?

» Q: I'm a stay-at-home dad, and I'm worried that my daughter will get bored at home with me and with the same toys. What do I do?

» Q: What should we do to childproof our house?

» Q: My wife wants to have another child, but I'm not sure I'm ready. The first one keeps us so busy already that we barely have time for the both of us. What should I do?

» Q: I'm a new father. I haven't had much experience with infants and I want to be involved in my daughter's care, but every time I try to pick her up, she starts to fret. How can I feel more competent?

» Q: We have a newborn and my wife and I are both exhausted. Who do you think should take care of the baby when he wakes up at 3 a.m.? Do both of us have to suffer?

» Q: I used to be the center of my wife's universe. Now that we've had a baby, I'm jealous, of all the time they spend together and I feel left out. Is this normal and how can I overcome my feelings?

» Q: Help! I'm an expectant father and something's happening to my libido.

» My three-year-old is a real handful at times. My wife and I have struggled to find the right approach to disciplining him. Do you have any suggestions?

» My three-year-old daughter has an imaginary friend named Maggie. She talks to her all the time, draws with her, and "reads" her favorite books to her. I even have to set an extra place at the dinner table for Maggie or my daughter won't eat. Is this okay or should I be concerned about my daughter's sanity?

» My husband recently bought a computer for our 18-month old daughter. I think he's nuts, but he says that it's never too early to get kids computer literate. Is he right or should we wait?

» My year-old child has begun to climb out of the crib at night. How do I keep her safe?



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